Dr. Adel Amer
As if the Arab countries are racing today to record record rates in divorce cases. There are similar reasons, but every Arab society distinguishes it in cases of separation between spouses. What are the main causes of divorce in every society? Saudi Arabia: 8 cases of divorce every hour in the family, the core of society, its first pillar, and its solid foundation, and when there is a defect in the family, this is reflected in the community, and it is damaged and cracked, and among the striking problems that need treatment and consideration, the large number of divorce cases, which constitutes a threat to the family building in Society, as the National Council report revealed that divorce rates have increased in the country during the year 2019, to reach 32.5%, which requires careful consideration of this problem, searching for its causes, and developing appropriate solutions to it.
There is no doubt that the reasons for divorce are multiple, and the reason may be from the husband or wife, or both of them, and among these reasons is the ill-treatment of one of the spouses in abusive treatment, whether verbal or actual abuse, or negligence and lack of consideration of the other, and the continuation of this type of Treatment, may ultimately lead to loss of patience, resorting to divorce, treatment in self-reform and behavior correction, and the correction of each spouse's treatment of the other.
Emotional apathy and loss of feelings between spouses is another reason for divorce, and this apathy, some call it emotional divorce, where the spouses have an uninspired bond, which may lead with days to a real divorce, and in order to remedy this matter, the principle of mercy, affection and kindness must be devoted Between the spouses, and the infusion of overflowing feelings in family life, God Almighty said: {And he made between you love and mercy}.
One of the reasons for divorce is that one of the spouses takes precedence over his individual interest, lack of consultation, cooperation, and appreciation of the interest of the other party, so that the spirit of individualism and unilateral behavior prevails in the family, and each spouse seeks to control the family without the other, impose his views, and intolerance to it, and reject the other opinion, stubbornness and victory For himself, and God Almighty said: {Those who listen to the saying and follow the best of it}, and when married life is built on following the best opinions, whether they come from the husband or the wife, it is the closest to happiness and stability.
Anger and irritability are also among the greatest reasons for destroying marital life, because it blocks the door of dialogue and understanding between spouses, and generates negative reactions from the other party, and may lead to unpleasant consequences, especially if one of the spouses becomes addicted to anger, and it becomes part of his nature in dealing With everyday situations.
Therefore, the legal orders came in warning against anger, explaining its consequences, and urging to get rid of it, and when one of the spouses found himself afflicted with this disease, he must treat himself immediately, and train himself in patience, endurance, calmness and long mind, and that comes with training, until it becomes a habit Lullaby.
Among the reasons for divorce is the disclosure of marital problems and their failure to contain them, and the introduction of external parties in them, as unwise external interference in marital problems may increase and not solve them, whether by the husband's family or wife, relatives or friends.
Especially if this intervention is an intervention biased by one of the parties at the expense of the other, without seeking justice and fairness, and without a sincere intention to find solutions and consolidate the common ground to contain the dispute, then this interference increases the complexity of the problem, and has it as a fuel for fire, unlike the wise and rational intervention, which expands the ground of understanding And he seeks to bridge the gap in viewpoints and find appropriate solutions to the problem. God Almighty said: {And if a discord between them is concealed, then send a judgment from his family and a judgment from its people if they want reform, God reconciles them.
Financial problems are one of the causes of divorce in societies, and there is no doubt that the material element is an essential part of marital life, and it requires proper dealing in this aspect, taking into account the balance between income, spending and saving, for rational management of family spending, and not excessive luxuries, because spending is not organized nor Planning, it has big implications.
We also point out in this aspect the importance of adapting to living conditions, especially in times of distress and distress, as the family may sometimes be ravaged by physical storms under one of the circumstances, so the family must have the jurisprudence of managing these crises, and the appreciation of each of the spouses for the circumstances of the other, in order to be able to ship The family safely weathered the storm, as it comes here, raising children on rational spending, and consolidating the principle of conviction, to be a help for their parents in completing their journey, and to be so in their future.
Weakness of religious conviction is also a serious reason for destroying the family, and here comes the observation of God Almighty, the protection of the soul from falling into forbidden pleasure, the struggle of the soul and passion, and the quick treatment, if anything of that occurred, and urgent repentance, and control reactions, if something is discovered from So by one of the spouses, and the search for the causes of the defect to be remedied.
There may be a problem in the marital relationship, and there is no doubt that this section is one of the most dangerous doors, because it may cause a rift that cannot be remedied, and among the causes of slipping into forbidden pleasure is the weakness of the sense of responsibility, and the primacy of self-interest and individual pleasures over family interests and marital duties.
What limits the problem of divorce is spreading societal awareness of the consequences of divorce and its damages, and the resulting distraction of the family, and negative repercussions on children, as a study of the marriage fund revealed what affects children as a result of divorce from sadness, isolation, aggression, low academic level, sleep disturbances and depression, Here, the role of intellectuals, family reformers and media professionals comes in, by focusing on these issues, and raising awareness, to enhance family stability in society.
We also advise those who are about to get married, by choosing a good partner, culturally, financially and socially, and to know that married life has rights and duties, and that they assume their responsibilities to the fullest, so that they build a happy family life.
According to the statistics of the Ministry of Justice in the Kingdom for the year 2015, 7.8 cases of divorce occur in Saudi Arabia every hour, or about 188 cases per day. This percentage did not differ from
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